Tantra, which pre-dates Hinduism and Buddhism, is an ancient practice where expanded orgasm is considered a direct path to spiritual enlightenment. It still exists in India and Tibet alongside the mainstream religions and it is great for everyone to lighten up yoursex life too.  After all, sex is healthy, plus it makes you feel great and relaxed.  It does take a bit of attention and time to get good at it though, so if you’re ready to awaken your libido and revitalize your sex life, read on…

1-2-3- foreplay: Many men forget that most women need at least 30 minutes of foreplay to warm up. So make out and fondle each other like you did when you were young—it’s well worth it.

Ambiance: Creating a sexy vibe with music you love with scented candles, fresh flowers, erotic art, fruits and finger foods and sexy aromas and making a sacred space for you and your partner will help you relax into the moment and get ready to fully enjoy.

Spend time together each week: Plan a sexy “date” at least once weekly and set aside an hour or more of uninterrupted time to enjoy together. Make your relationship a priority like it used to be!

Pay attention to your breath: Since quick breathing creates arousal which speeds you toward orgasm, try instead to take slow, deep breaths from the belly, and exhale slowly. Do this together, matching your breath to your partner’s so you can synchronize your energy with your lover’s.

Count on Kegels: You know them from the classic Kegel exercises.  The pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, which extend from your pubic bone to your tailbone, are the same muscles used to stop the flow of urine and if properly conditioned, they’ll enable you to stop ejaculation while continuing to enjoy sex.

Remember, for women, sexual desire can be dampened by feelings of guilt, fear stress and other distracting thoughts, so be sure to take the time to concentrate on feeling rather than thinking when being intimate or making love.